Honestly, I write about issues and different things because I want my daughter to know who I am and my prospective on life. I think it is important for children to know their parents and not just as "Mom and Dad" but really know them. Given that we don't live in a world of certainty and the good Lord can call me home at any second, I want my daughter to know me even if heaven forbid I am not here with her every day. I never want her to wonder who her mother was? What I would say or how I would feel? I have thought many times about writing a book to her on every topic I could think of and just run with it...I might just do it, when I get the time.
I recently read the book "The Help" and I highly recommend it if you are looking for a good read. It made me think even more about a topic I have pondered on many times. Time,Women, and the our role today. Quiet time. Me time. Quality Time. Girl Time. I know I am not alone in the sea of water I thread. As most of you know I am a working mother and I often struggle with balancing my time.
Back in the day a mother, a wife had a different role than she does today. The Bible talks about the woman's role of being a wife and a mother and up until World War II this was pretty much how women functioned in the world. They were married, and known as Mrs...... or ...so and so's mother. The men provided for the household, the men worked outside of the home during the day and the women tended to house and the children. Most white women even had "help" keeping house and raising the children. Here is the touchy part: Up until about 50+ years ago most white women had a husband that worked all day, help that came to the house everyday to cook, clean and nanny to the children. What did they do what there time?!!! Organize fundraisers, go to league meetings, volunteer for this, that and the other. Then came along the War and the Civil Rights movement...women went to work in the factories and the "help" eventually found better opportunities. The men came home from war but the women continued to work. The children now went to childcare centers or stayed home alone. The Dad works all day, the Mom works all day but the house and the children are still considered to be the Mom's responsibility even to this day. The Bible has not changed and the Lord is pretty clear on what a mother's responsibility is. Are there enough hours in the day for a working mother to truly fulfill her obligations to her husband, her children, her church, her job, her house, her community, her friends, herself, her Lord!!!??? I think we all know the answer, No. There is not enough time, so what gives?
I would love to have an hour of quiet time every day to think and talk to God, I would love to have an hour every day to hang out with my husband, cook a wonderful dinner, play with my daughter without thinking of the 100+ other things that need to be done. I am just not sure how women got to this place but then again the Lord doesn't give us more than we can't handle so just maybe those of us in the category of the working mother can handle it but at who's expense? Our husband's, our children, our Lord?? Everyone fights their own battles maybe this is just one of mine.
Please let me stress here I know that stay at home moms work, raising babies all day and all night is one of the hardest jobs out there. I realize there were plenty of women who had no help. I also realize that "back in the day" women did not have a voice, they were told who they were and what to think...which is probably why I was not born back then, God knew I would end up in jail.:)
The phrase "Life is Short" is becoming more and more real. The older you get the shorter life seems.....because you don't have as much time as you once thought you did. There are so many things to do in life but when are we suppose to find the time??
Get an education, get married, balance the career, clean the house, make babies, have babies, nurse babies, drinks with friends, more drinks with friends, swimming lessons, paint the house, read a book, pray, cook, pay the bills, go to the store, travel the world, volunteer, follow your dreams, read to your children, homework, go to Disneyworld, work on the flowerbeds, get your teeth cleaned, show and tell day, bake a cake, just smile, just breathe,....this is life, this is world we live in....I am just grateful to have a family to share it with, it may be a few minutes here and a few minutes there but I try and stay focused even when the clock is going "tick tock, tick tock." The balance will eventually find me...and all in perfect time!
"Honest scales and balances are from the LORD; all the weights in the bag are of his making"
Proverbs 16:11
